When family members effectively handle disagreements and resolve conflicts in a constructive way they avoid stress, tension, develop healthy relationships and enhance the health and well-being of children and young people.
We help families in dispute especially those who are divorcing or separated to resolve issues concerning arrangements for children after break-up, child maintenance and financial settlements.
WOMEN’S LEGAL SERVICES
We offer free legal services to women going through separation or divorce to protect their rights, children and future with a focus on family law, legal advice and information and other support services.
Economic hardships, emotional problems and psychological distress are associated with the break-up of families. This often leads to financially disabled, depressed and homeless single mothers raising children alone.
The effects of separation, divorce, break-up on children and adolescents can be destructive. According to an African adage, ‘when two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers’. Meaning, when the large fight, it is the small who suffer or the weak get hurt in conflicts between the powerful. When parents argue or fight, it is the children that suffer most.
The consequences in the lives of children and adolescents include homelessness, poverty, lack of education, academic, behavioural and psychological problems, impulsive behaviour, increased peer conflicts and aggressive behaviours. These negative effects are avoidable.
It is not divorce in itself that psychologically damages children it is how you handle it, how you divorce or separate. Parents can continue to love their children. They can continue to promote their health, safety and well-being.
This is a structured process that helps individuals in conflict situations work one-on-one with a dispute resolution specialist to resolve a dispute. They learn to better analyze and understand the conflict issue and how to effectively manage it. It is conflict support for individuals in cases of unresolved anger and resentment with a partner, ex-partner, a parent, child etc.
Individuals develop personal skills to rebuild relationships, improve communication, competency in conflict management and learn new skills for conflict resolution.
When separated parents work together to resolve their parenting issues, they are doing what is best for their children and for themselves. Parents at the time of separation or divorce can resolve disagreements without going to court assisted by a neutral third party, a mediator.
The mediator helps them work through child custody arrangements and visitation, child support and finances to reach agreement on parenting their children after separation. They create their own parenting plan that let their children spend time with both parents.
Mediation is voluntary, private, confidential, quicker and cheaper than litigation. It helps resolve disputes without escalating the problems and it is protective of children. The process is non-judgmental. The mediator can work with the parties separately if either party is not comfortable with being in the same room as the other partner.