Category Archives: Youth

1. Foundation is crucial, start right.
2. Share the same spiritual convictions.
3. Build on a relationship driven by the man
4. Obey divine order as regards headship of the man
5. Cultivate positive and intimate communication.
6. Take each other’s feelings into account before doing anything
7. Express your feelings, concerns, interests calmly
8. Correct her in love
9. Unite to solve your problems with respect.  Don’t assume the worst. There are many possible reasons for his or her behaviour. Be honest, open come up with solutions together. Promote a common ground
10. Encourage dialogue. Allow him complete his sentence before replying. Stay on the subject. Take responsibility for your own responses
11. Accept responsibility for your own role in the disagreement. Initiate contact
12. Be willing to forgive
13. Trust each other. Be trustworthy. Avoid being suspicious.
14. Read on marriage. Attend seminars. Shouldn’t we all
15. Listen to him and respond with care
16. Understand each other
17. Give unconditional respect to your husband.
18. Appreciate, accept, notice, admire, commend him
19. Endure together
20. Tolerate each other
21. Offer your advice and help if he asks for it
22. Don’t correct him in public
23. Turn your fights into good ones
24. Figure out the real problem, concerns, needs
25. Remove barriers to effective listening ego, assumption, defensiveness, impatience,
26. In making decisions make use of her opinions, insights and suggestions
27. Meet his emotional needs.
28. Understand the other person’s point of view
29. Be hard working with direction
30. Encourage your partner’s dreams and goals
31. Be happy with each other’s successes and achievements
32. Give unconditional love to your wife. Tell her you love her
33. Love his mother
34. Spend time together. Share his interests
35. Encourage your husband
36. Let there be enthusiastic agreement between you
37. Let go of wanting to be right. A third position may exist
38. Honour your parents
39. Don’t think it is greener on the other side
40. Be aware and respectful of each other’s differences. Manage these differences
41. Appearance matters pay attention to this. Pay compliments to each other
42. Support him to create financial security
43. Keep each other informed of happenings at end of each day
44. Make financial decisions together. Ensure financial intimacy. Be financially responsible
45. Be considerate.
46. Be positive. View your spouse in a positive light.
47. Admit when wrong and apologize
48. Do not take it personally
49. Figure out what the other person is feeling.
50. Protect your partner. Portray your spouse in good light to your family.
51. Watch how your attitude and actions impact on your spouse
52. Subdue and control your emotions
53. Don’t let negative thoughts linger renew your mind  replace negative thoughts with positive ones
54. Treat your spouse better than you treat anyone else
55. Paint the big picture
56. Ensure physical intimacy
57. Many people have worse problems but prefer to  work it out
58. Not who is right but what is right
59. Control and change yourself to change your spouse.
60. Be faithful, do not have an affair, be committed to your own unique and special gift

With the Children

The father should spend quality time with his children. Lead by example. Model Christ, love and fear of God, personal relationship with God

Raise a disciplined family. Do not do what you don’t want your children to do.

Treat your spouse well to teach your children how to manage their own relationships

The mother should model and help her family do what is right. A mother God-fearing, kind, strong, comforting, observant, watchful and protects her children.

Parents should impart and be the pattern of family values of honesty, integrity, self-discipline, self-control, kindness, respect, decorum, diligence, hard work to their children.

Train your children. Discipline them in love. Be firm and positive.

Create family rules together with your younger children on clear boundaries, standards and expectations on moral and ethical conduct, chastity, road safety, good manners, to help them make the right choices.

Build a close knit and affectionate family. Keep the line of communication open and free with your children. Give unconditional love to each child.

Establish structure, guidance, and order in the home

Pray for your children always. Be a praying wife and mother

Pray together as a family

Estate planning ensures your assets are distributed the way you want after you die. An estate plan helps you name those you want to receive the things you own after your death. This will give you peace of mind knowing you have protected your family and loved ones from those that may want to take advantage of them and the situation.

A good estate plan can help avert future problems and take care of potential risks or harm to the well-being and future of children. Succession or inheritance disputes are common phenomena characterized by deep hostilities and acrimony. Conflict associated with estate matters can tear siblings or families apart.

The process of mediation helps resolve estate disputes without going through the court system which can be costly, time consuming and divisive. Family members and beneficiaries with the help of a mediator dialogue plans on transfer of assets. A mediator can help parties focus on the future and arrive at creative and peaceful solutions.

PROTECTING YOUR LOVED ONES

Create a will

You may wish to distribute your assets by way of gifts while still alive to take effect after your death. A lawyer experienced in estate law can assist in this regard.

You may leave instructions with some of your family members (selected wisely) those you know will protect your wishes and loved ones especially if your wife has no child

Make your wife when expedient and/or your grown up children (18 years or above) next of-kin in official documents.

Prepare your wife, children for responsibility to succeed you in your business

Empower your wife economically. When women are empowered children are empowered because a woman will take care of her children

Practice joint ownership of assets with your wife with her full name in relevant documents to enable her access the assets without official or family hindrances

Disclose your assets to your wife

Make your wife co-signatory to your account. Keep a joint account with her so that she can take care of your children. Whatever may be her situation a woman would not forget her children

After the demise of her husband a widow who confronts difficulties with her in-laws and fears for her children and their future should seek peaceful intervention through mediation.