People who are skilled in managing their emotions in an empathetic way tend to effectively manage conflict and succeed in marriage. They have learnt to consider the feelings of the other person. They discuss issues in a courteous way, understand, honour and respect each other. They listen and express admiration for each other leading to feelings of closeness, intimacy and happiness.
You create a relationship where you are free to express your feelings and emotions without blame, criticism or judgment from the other person. On your own part, you have learnt to name your feelings, saying exactly how you feel. You identify what triggers these feelings, find the right word to describe it and communicate this calmly and clearly to your wife.
The result is that you are able to make your wife listen and you both discuss and find solutions to resolve the conflict. Building a marriage where there is emotional support, encouragement especially in times of stress or sadness. You have achieved this because of the ability to listen to your wife. Listening in an empathetic way. Listening when she wants to communicate and placing value on what she says. Understanding and allowing her perspective, feelings and needs in your decision making process as a couple.
You can manage conflict in a healthy and respectful way. Letting go of the need to be right or win an argument rather, ask for her needs and search for a solution together. Don’t belittle her, raise your voice or curse. Listen more. Creatively find new ways to love your wife. Show your love to her. Surprise her with nice words. Be her friend. Being confident in your role as the husband. If there are problems you cannot handle on your own, consider using the following process. Read More