You can make your marriage strong but you have to acknowledge that disagreements are inevitable. They will occur when your interests, perspectives or opinion differ. Remember, you are unique individuals you are different and will see things differently. You can turn these into marital strengths applying the following positive approaches:
Good, thoughtful and effective communication is the basis of a strong marriage. This is based on honesty, openness, respect and effective listening. Good communication serves as a buffer against the tempest in marriage. Using the right words and gestures, a marriage can be healed, enriched and made stronger. Learn to communicate better:
Don’t assume anything. Don’t always think the worst. Hear what the other person has to say before you jump to conclusions. Don’t interpret his/her actions without hearing him or her out.
Clear up misunderstandings by listening and not thinking of retaliating. Air your feelings. Ask questions to clarify issues and understand what your spouse is saying or thinking. These are questions that will not lead to defensive response or argument.
Understanding Each Other
Learn to know and adapt to your partner. Acknowledge each other’s unique differences and individuality. This will help you gain insight into each other’s needs and expectations and how to best meet them. Don’t take everything personal. Respect each other’s opinion. Not an issue of being right or wrong. You will see things differently.
Good understanding births tolerance and acceptance. You do not view problems as ‘his’ or ‘her’ problem but as ‘our’ problem and unite to deal with it. Recognize the good in your spouse and be supportive of each other’s personal growth.
These preventive measures can help you protect and improve on your marriage. Make time to evaluate your marriage through effective discussion. From time to time, carry out a check-up to know the condition of your marriage. Remember to put the phone away. Pick together when to regularly check-up on your marriage, carry out a clean-up and get to know how you can improve as an individual and as a couple.
Make time for each other. This will help you identify problem areas early and mend fences. You will avoid mind reading, making assumptions or jumping into wrong conclusions.
Get a grip on issues from your background that may be having adverse effect on your marriage. Be forgiving and let go. Change negative tendencies. Break bad habits and behaviours, replace them with positive and productive ones. These will help you restore, strengthen, spice up your marriage and bond. View
Get the Spark Back
You can rekindle the flame in your marriage. Backtrack to the period of your courtship, you responded to his love and leadership expressed through his thoughtful initiatives, plans, gifts, taking you out even to places you were not too keen about. You shared his interests looked your best to please him and put up your best behaviour (Darien B. Cooper). There was love, respect and teamwork. You can keep the glow going!
Putting God First
Bring God into your marriage to enjoy happiness. You can transform your marriage through the power of prayer. Ask for the grace to do all that will make your marriage succeed. Take every problem to God in prayer. Trusting God in every situation. Holding hands, praying together as a couple.