It is said that ‘you go as the friends or company you keep’. Choose your friends wisely. Stay away from those who give you bad advice, make you do what you do not want to do or what is not right. This is peer pressure. Avoid negative influences. Learn to say ‘No’ and mean it.
Make friends with those who share your values and interests. Associate with good and responsible people. Associate with those who make positive impact on you and influence you to be better. Remember, someone who stops being your friend was never a friend.
Some teenagers give in to peer pressure because they want to be liked, they do not want to be made fun of or due to curiosity. Walk away from situations and people that will make you compromise your standards or convictions.
Teens who know what they want and are not afraid to say ‘no’ to negative peer pressure attract the respect and admiration of others.
Avoid those who coerce, tease, intimidate or threaten others. They are bullies. Ignore them. They act to gain attention. They usually end up in trouble. A bully is the one with a problem not you. The good news is that they can change their behaviour. Well-behaved teenagers are liked and attract the respect of their peers.
Protect your body from substances that can be harmful to your body and mind. Stay away from drugs, alcohol and cigarette. Avoid people who use them and pressure others to do the same. Indulge in those things that promote your health, safety and well-being.
Some young people get introduced to drugs, alcohol and smoking by their friends. They experiment with these substances because they desire acceptance and become addicted.
Some in search of relief when going through emotional pain try these illicit substances and instead of finding relief become addicted. They rely on smoking or drinking to make their hurt go away temporarily but these are wrong options.
It is normal for a young person to be bored, depressed or experience emotional pain sometimes due to problems at school, in the family or neighborhood. We all pass through difficult times. The good news is that this will also go away. Stay positive. Read, participate in team sports, exercise, art or writing and other gainful activities.
There are some things that should wait. Sex is one of them. Abstain from sex. This is meant to take place in marriage. Some teens have sex because their friends pressure them to. A friend who pressure you to have sex is not a good friend. Do not allow anyone lure, blackmail or intimidate you into having sex or doing what you do not want to do.
Sex can lead to serious consequences such as unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), parenthood, dropping out of school and shame. Chasity is a wise and healthy choice. It demonstrates a healthy self-esteem. It prevents getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant. This way you don’t miss out on your youthful years.
Do not get involved in a relationship it can be a major distraction. Dress decently and responsibly, avoid kissing and do not allow wrong touching. Develop healthy friendships characterized by respect and consideration for the other person.
Concentrate on your studies. Share knowledge, information and ideas. Focus on the importance of higher education, benefits of furthering your education and skills.
Do what is right
Avoid inappropriate materials and values portrayed by the media, internet and lyrics of music. Make responsible choices. Read, participate in sports playing or as a fan.
Be a positive role model for others. Do what is right. If it is bad because others are doing it does not make it right. Do not be afraid to be different.
Be obedient. Learn to communicate with your parents. Confide in your parents. Talk to them when facing difficulties, fears and when confused.
You can talk to trusted and responsible adults, your teacher or school counsellor.
Acknowledge individual differences and peculiarities. We cannot all be the same. Be happy for the success of others. Be yourself. Dream big.
Get to know God. Build a relationship with Him. You’ve got to fulfill God’s plan for your life.