The Conflict Management Toolkit for Families

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  1. Foundation is crucial, start right.
  2. Share the same spiritual convictions.
  3. Build on a relationship driven by the man
  4. Obey divine order as regards headship of the man
  5. Cultivate positive and intimate communication.
  6. Take each other’s feelings into account before doing anything
  7. Express your feelings, concerns, interests calmly
  8. Correct her in love
  9. Unite to solve your problems with respect.  Don’t assume the worst. There are many possible reasons for his or her behaviour. Be honest, open come up with solutions together. Promote a common ground
  10. Encourage dialogue. Allow him complete his sentence before replying. Stay on the subject. Take responsibility for your own responses
  11. Accept responsibility for your own role in the disagreement. Initiate contact
  12. Be willing to forgive
  13. Trust each other. Be trustworthy. Avoid being suspicious.
  14. Read on marriage. Attend seminars. Shouldn’t we all
  15. Listen to him and respond with care
  16. Understand each other
  17. Give unconditional respect to your husband.
  18. Appreciate, accept, notice, admire, commend him
  19. Endure together
  20. Tolerate each other
  21. Offer your advice and help if he asks for it
  22. Don’t correct him in public
  23. Turn your fights into good ones
  24. Figure out the real problem, concerns, needs
  25. Remove barriers to effective listening ego, assumption, defensiveness, impatience,
  26. In making decisions make use of her opinions, insights and suggestions
  27. Meet his emotional needs.
  28. Understand the other person’s point of view
  29. Be hard working with direction
  30. Encourage your partner’s dreams and goals
  31. Be happy with each other’s successes and achievements
  32. Give unconditional love to your wife. Tell her you love her
  33. Love his mother
  34. Spend time together. Share his interests
  35. Encourage your husband
  36. Let there be enthusiastic agreement between you
  37. Let go of wanting to be right. A third position may exist
  38. Honour your parents
  39. Don’t think it is greener on the other side
  40. Be aware and respectful of each other’s differences. Manage these differences
  41. Appearance matters pay attention to this. Pay compliments to each other
  42. Support him to create financial security
  43. Keep each other informed of happenings at end of each day
  44. Make financial decisions together. Ensure financial intimacy. Be financially responsible
  45. Be considerate.
  46. Be positive. View your spouse in a positive light.
  47. Admit when wrong and apologize
  48. Do not take it personally
  49. Figure out what the other person is feeling.
  50. Protect your partner. Portray your spouse in good light to your family.
  51. Watch how your attitude and actions impact on your spouse
  52. Subdue and control your emotions
  53. Don’t let negative thoughts linger renew your mind  replace negative thoughts with positive ones
  54. Treat your spouse better than you treat anyone else
  55. Paint the big picture
  56. Ensure physical intimacy
  57. Many people have worse problems but prefer to  work it out
  58. Not who is right but what is right
  59. Control and change yourself to change your spouse.
  60. Be faithful, do not have an affair, be committed to your own unique and special gift

With the Children

The father should spend quality time with his children. Lead by example. Model Christ, love and fear of God, personal relationship with God

Raise a disciplined family. Do not do what you don’t want your children to do.

Treat your spouse well to teach your children how to manage their own relationships

The mother should model and help her family do what is right. A mother God-fearing, kind, strong, comforting, observant, watchful and protects her children.

Parents should impart and be the pattern of family values of honesty, integrity, self-discipline, self-control, kindness, respect, decorum, diligence, hard work to their children.

Train your children. Discipline them in love. Be firm and positive.

Create family rules together with your younger children on clear boundaries, standards and expectations on moral and ethical conduct, chastity, road safety, good manners, to help them make the right choices.

Build a close knit and affectionate family. Keep the line of communication open and free with your children. Give unconditional love to each child.

Establish structure, guidance, and order in the home

Pray for your children always. Be a praying wife and mother

Pray together as a family