The effects of separation or divorce on children and adolescents can be destructive. According to an African adage, ‘when two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers’. Meaning, when the large fight, it is the small who suffer or the weak get hurt in conflicts between the powerful. When parents argue or fight, it is the children that suffer the most.
Parents Influencing their Children’s Positive Emotional Health and Well-being
Child custody mediation enables separating or separated parents negotiate about future parenting arrangements for their children without the need to go to court. Mediation refers to the process of resolving legal disputes assisted by a neutral third person a family law mediator in particular. It is a non adversarial and cooperative resolution method for parents.
The process helps them settle disputes involving child custody arrangements, visitation, child maintenance and more. They reach an agreement focused on promoting the best interests of their children who are experiencing significant change brought about by the separation of their parents.
Parents are assisted to negotiate a mutually acceptable agreement that enables them develop their own parenting plan. Such that both parents will be involved in the lives of their children doing what is best for themselves and their children. The parties determine the outcome. The mediator cannot impose a decision on them but help them cooperate to raise their children even though they are separated and no longer live together.
Mediation is quicker, private and confidential. This approach helps disputing parties resume workable relationship with each other. It works contrary to the adversarial system which increases trauma and escalates conflict detriment to the best interests of children. You avoid undue stress and costs. If the other parent cannot be in the same room together, the mediator can work with both parents nonetheless. Free mediation and Legal Support
Reducing the Negative Impact of Divorce and Separation on Your Children
Economic hardships, emotional problems and psychological distress are associated with the break-up of families. This often leads to financially disabled, depressed and homeless mothers raising children alone.
The consequences in the lives of children and adolescents include homelessness, poverty, lack of education, behavioural and psychological problems, impulsive behaviour, increased peer conflicts and aggressive behaviours. These negative effects are avoidable.
It is not estrangement or divorce in itself that inflicts psychological damage on children it is how it is handled. Parents can continue to love their children. They can continue to be actively involved in the lives of their children and cooperate to promote their health, safety and well-being after breakup.