Let’s talk about the things that matter.
It is said that ‘you go as the friends or company you keep’. Choose your friends wisely. Stay away from those who give you bad advice, make you do what you do not want to do or what is not right. This is peer pressure. Avoid negative influences. Learn to say ‘No’ and mean it.
Make friends with those who share your values. Associate with good and responsible people. Associate with those who make positive influence on you. A person who stops being your friend was never a friend.
Some teenagers give in to peer pressure because they want to be liked, they do not want to be made fun of or due to curiosity. Walk away from situations and people that will make you compromise your standards or convictions.
Teens who know what they want and are not afraid to say ‘no’ to negative peer pressure attract the respect and admiration of others.
Nobody has the right to hurt other people. Everyone needs to be respected, respect for oneself and others. A person who exerts control and power over others or bullies others usually lacks a good self-esteem and is in dire need of attention.
Avoid those who coerce, tease, intimidate or threaten others. They are bullies. Ignore them. They act to gain attention. They usually end up in trouble. A bully is the one with a problem not you. The good news is that they can change their behaviour. They can learn to be positive and build healthy relationships. Well-behaved teenagers are liked and attract the respect of their peers.
Drinking and smoking
Protect yourself from substances that can harm your body and mind. Stay away from drugs, alcohol and cigarette. Avoid people who use them and pressure others to do the same. Indulge in those things that promote your health, safety and well-being.
Some young people get introduced to drugs, alcohol and smoking by their friends. They experiment with these substances because they want to be accepted but become addicted.
Some in search of relief when going through emotional pain try these illicit substances and instead of finding relief become addicted. They rely on smoking or drinking to make their hurt go away temporarily but these are wrong options.
It is normal for a young person to be bored, depressed or experience emotional problems sometimes due to difficulties at school, in the family or neighborhood. We all pass through difficult times sometimes. The good news is that it will go away. Stay positive. Read, participate in team sports, exercise, art or writing and other gainful activities.
There are some things that should wait. Sex is one of them. Abstain from sex. This is meant to take place in marriage. Some teens have sex because their friends pressure them. A friend who coerces you to have sex is not a good friend. Do not allow anyone lure, blackmail or intimidate you into having sex or doing what you do not want to do.
Sex can result in grave consequences like diseases, teen pregnancy or parenthood and dropping out of school. Chasity is a wise and healthy choice. It demonstrates a healthy self-esteem. It prevents getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant. This way you don’t miss out on your youthful years.
Do not get involved in a relationship it can be a major distraction. Dress decently and responsibly, avoid kissing and do not allow wrong touching. Develop healthy friendships based on respect and consideration for the other person.
Concentrate on your studies. Share knowledge, information and ideas. Focus on the importance of higher education.
Be a positive role model
Avoid inappropriate content from the social media or music. Make responsible choices. Read, participate in sports playing or as a fan.
Be a positive role model for others. Do what is right! If it is bad because others are doing it does not make it right. Do not be afraid to be different.
When going through anxiety, fears, worry or when confused, go to your parents, talk to your parents, confide in them or talk to other trusted and responsible adult, your teacher or school counsellor.
Stay happy. Be yourself. Be happy with yourself. Love yourself. Dream big. Set healthy goals. Maximize your potential. Help others. Live a happy life.
Get to know God
Get to know God for yourself. Develop a personal relationship with God. Build a close relationship with Him. Take all problems to Him in prayer.