Protecting your Children from the effects of Divorce

Despite the ending of your marriage you remain a parent. It is your responsibility and that of your ex-partner to ensure continued parenting and care for your children to safeguard their welfare. Divorce subjects children to great risks and you would need to resolve to cooperate with your ex-spouse for the sake of your children. This way you prevent emotional damage divorce inflicts on children and ensure their well-being.


Tips for Parents

It is prudent to act with dignity towards your ex particularly if you are the custodial parent. This way you are doing what is best for the social, emotional and psychological well-being of your child.

Learn to be polite in your interactions with the other parent. Maintain a healthy relationship with the other parent focusing on the best interest of your child.

Cooperate to meet the physical and emotional needs of your child. Make the well-being of your child priority.

Have patience with your child. Be more patient. Give your child unconditional love.

Reassure your child that both parents will continue to love and take care of them and that they are not responsible for the divorce or separation.

Avoid saying anything negative about the other parent to the child. Avoid blaming, being critical, be respectful of the other person.

When you recount what happened in your marriage be sincere and positive. Help your child develop good decision-making skills.

If you have issues regarding parenting after separation, you can seek professional help. You can make use of mediation to resolve your disputes and disagreements and reach agreement. This will enable you parent cooperatively and protect the well-being of your child.

Be forgiving. Forgiveness is key. Don’t keep bringing back hurts. Learn to forgive the other person. This way you learn to be more objective, learn from past mistakes, open yourself to being a better person and free yourself to move on.

Raise your child to love God. Raise your child God’s way. Help them develop a personal relationship with God. This is important for their emotional and mental health as well as yours.


Protecting Your Loved Ones in Case of Eventualities

Estate planning ensures your assets are distributed the way you want after you die. An estate plan helps you name those you want to receive the things you own after your death. This will give you peace of mind knowing you have protected your family and loved ones from those that may want to take advantage of them and the situation.

A good estate plan can help avert future problems and take care of potential risks or harm to the well-being and future of children. Succession or inheritance disputes are common phenomena characterized by deep hostilities and acrimony. Conflict associated with estate matters can tear siblings or families apart.

Creating a Will.

You may wish to distribute your assets by way of gifts while still alive to take effect after your death. A lawyer experienced in estate law can assist in this regard.

You may leave instructions with some of your family members (selected wisely) those you know will protect your wishes and loved ones especially if your wife has no child

Make your wife when expedient and/or your grown up children (18 years or above) next of-kin in official documents.

Prepare your wife, children for responsibility to succeed you in your business

Empower your wife economically. When women are empowered children are empowered because a woman will take care of her children

Practice joint ownership of assets with your wife with her full name in relevant documents to enable her access the assets without official or family hindrances

Disclose your assets to your wife

Make your wife co-signatory to your account. Keep a joint account with her so that she can take care of your children. Whatever may be her situation a woman would not forget her children

After the demise of her husband a widow who confronts difficulties with her in-laws and fears for her children and their future should seek peaceful intervention through mediation.


Free Legal Help for Widows

When your husband passes away find an attorney to address the legal issues that will arise. The attorney can help you know what your legal rights are when it comes to inheritance of your husband’s estate depending on the nature and extent of your family assets, real estate bank accounts, other holdings and the planning you have done. Using a lawyer would help you through the probate process.

The financial setback that comes with losing a spouse compounds the despair felt by the family. The surviving spouse deals with significant financial as well as personal loss especially young families with dependent children. They need financial support to assist with rent, food, utility bills and education for the children.

Widow and In-law Disputes

Many widows are poor and unable to afford justice. Mediation is a collaborative form of dispute resolution that occurs outside of court. The use of mediation will help poor and vulnerable widows and their children access justice and resolve disinheritance issues between widows and in-laws or heirs of the deceased in widow disinheritance and maltreatment cases.

In situations where the other party is not interested in amicable resolution the widow can report to the Police, Human Rights Commission or get help to go to court.