Protecting Your Children from the Effects of Divorce

Despite the ending of your marriage you remain a parent. It is your responsibility and that of your ex-partner to ensure continued parenting of your children to safeguard their welfare.  Divorce subjects children to great risks. You would need to resolve to cooperate with your ex-spouse for the sake of your children. This way you prevent emotional damage divorce inflicts on children and ensure their well-being.


Tips to help you protect your children:
  • As the custodial parent, you should behave with dignity towards your ex-spouse this way you will be doing what is best for your children.
  • Be polite in your interactions with your ex. Maintain a working relationship as peacefully as possible in the best interest of your children.
  • Cooperate to meet the physical and emotional needs of your children. Make their wellbeing your top priority.
  • Deal with your children with patience and give them unconditional love.
  • Reassure them that both parents will continue to love and take care of them and that they are not responsible for the divorce or separation.
  • Don’t say anything negative about the other parent to the children, avoid blaming or being critical. Be respectful of the other parent.
  • When you recount what happened in your marriage be sincere and positive.
  • If you have problems with issues consequent to the separation or with parenting, you can seek professional help for amicable settlement.
  • Forgiveness is important. Be forgiving.
  • Raise your children God’s way. Help them build a relationship with God.

Protecting Your Loved Ones in Case of Eventualities

Estate planning ensures your assets are distributed the way you want after you die. An estate plan helps you name those you want to receive the things you own after your death. This will give you peace of mind knowing you have protected your family and loved ones from those that may want to take advantage of them and the situation.

A good estate plan can help avert future problems and take care of potential risks or harm to the well-being and future of children. Succession or inheritance disputes are common phenomena characterized by deep hostilities and acrimony. Conflict associated with estate matters can tear siblings or families apart.

The process of mediation helps resolve estate disputes without going through the court system which can be costly, time consuming and divisive. Family members and beneficiaries with the help of a mediator dialogue plans on transfer of assets. A mediator can help parties focus on the future and arrive at creative and peaceful solutions.


Create a will

You may wish to distribute your assets by way of gifts while still alive to take effect after your death. A lawyer experienced in estate law can assist in this regard.

You may leave instructions with some of your family members (selected wisely) those you know will protect your wishes and loved ones especially if your wife has no child

Make your wife when expedient and/or your grown up children (18 years or above) next of-kin in official documents.

Prepare your wife, children for responsibility to succeed you in your business

Empower your wife economically. When women are empowered children are empowered because a woman will take care of her children

Practice joint ownership of assets with your wife with her full name in relevant documents to enable her access the assets without official or family hindrances

Disclose your assets to your wife

Make your wife co-signatory to your account. Keep a joint account with her so that she can take care of your children. Whatever may be her situation a woman would not forget her children

After the demise of her husband a widow who confronts difficulties with her in-laws and fears for her children and their future should seek peaceful intervention through mediation.