A parent-child relationship is one that nurtures the physical, emotional and social development of the child. This unique bond helps the child exhibit a positive social behaviour. The healthy involvement of parents in the day-to-day life of their children helps ensure that their children perform better socially and academically.
The qualities of a good parent include constantly expresses love and affection for their children, provides support, sets limits, being a good role model, teaches responsibility, communicates effectively, maintains a good relationship with the other parent.
Conflict Resolution Strategies Parents Should Use
When your child exhibits challenging behaviour or when he/she has made wrong choices, communicate with him/her clearly and calmly. Focus on the problem, talk to your child using effective and assertive communication.
Listen to your child: Put your phone down and make eye contact. Listening to your child is important and try not to downplay your child’s concerns. Keep to boundaries. Do not give in to bad behaviour. Make your child know your concern is for his/her safety and well-being now and in the future.
Determine underlying causes: Listen attentively to determine and address underlying causes. Look beyond the rebellious behaviour to the causes behind it. Ask questions to make him or her express his feelings, needs, concerns to get to the root of the problem. If appropriate give the child a chance to help solve the problem.
Assess your parenting style: Evaluate the impact of your lifestyle and parenting style in the life of your child. Pay attention to your own habits and approach to parenting in terms of discipline, guidance and meeting the unique needs of the child.
Model healthy conflict resolution: Offer sincere apology and seek forgiveness for genuine shortcomings. Do not apportion blame but decide on what should be done from now on in your relationship with your child. Do not try to make up for past mistakes by becoming overly permissive but set out in a new direction with your child.
Seek professional help: Get professional help if you need it. When faced with a difficult or stressful relationship or behaviour you cannot handle on your own seek independent help. Seek the help of a mediator, counsellor or child psychologist.
Build A Family Support System
Find community-based services for children and families that assist and support parents. Family support services strengthening families with practical and emotional support to help you through difficulties. Seek family therapy programmes, family counselling and family mediation services, effective intervention for the family can help parents develop better parenting practices, communication, problem solving skills and help your child.
Teach Your Child Conflict Resolution Skills
Help your child learn problem solving and conflict resolution skills the child was not taught at home to manage emotions and handle conflicts constructively. Critical skills for positive behavior support that foster behaviour change. Conflict Resolution Education.
Tips To Prevent Behaviour Problems
Parental supervision. Never leave your child unsupervised especially after school hours when you are at work. Ensure trusted and responsible adult supervision at all times.
Stay alert. Educate your child about the issues of concern due to illegal activities in your area. Teach your child to keep safe.
Set boundaries. Set limits. Have clear and consistent rules. Give consequences. Let them know you care about their safety.
Discipline your child. Let them know they cannot get away with bad conduct and wrongdoing. Remain firm.
Pay attention and listen to your child. Hear them out.
Create structure. Have family routines followed by all family members, sharing tasks and chores, loving one another and responding to one another in gentle and respectful ways.
Educate your child to always do what is right regardless of what may be going on around them.
Get your child involved in activities suited to the personality and skills of the child, sports, music, drama, debate, art and other activities. These can fill unsupervised after school hours or their free time.
Community involvement- boy scouts, girl scouts, church, youth groups provide youth with the opportunity to interact in a safe social environment.
Give your child attention. Get involved in the life of your child. Constantly express your love to your child. Spend time with them. Help them with homework, go to sports, games, movie or watch favourite TV show together.
Have dinner as a family. Learn about their activities and interests. Help your child feel comfortable to talk to you, reach out to you in time of trouble or need.
Exhibit good parental behaviour. Be a good example. Model good behaviour to your child. Good ethical principles and practices at all times in your speech and actions.
When your child exhibits extreme behaviour seek professional help.
Be a praying parent. Pray for your child.