Juvenile Delinquency Prevention : Two Major Ways

A juvenile delinquent is any young person under the age of 18 years whose conduct is characterized by antisocial behaviour that is beyond parental control and subject to legal action. A minor involved in acts such as assault, rape, substance abuse, underaged drinking and smoking, gang violence, stealing, cultism, robbery, etc.

Habitual committing of criminal acts or offences by a young person, especially one below the age at which ordinary criminal prosecution is possible. Boys with chronic delinquent behaviour who are at risk of incarceration.

The Effects of Juvenile Delinquency

Causes 

Risk factors of juvenile offending include broken families, poverty, frequent parent’s fights, poor parenting, peer pressure, lack of parental supervision, lack of discipline, family violence, lack of education, substance abuse, uninvolved parenting, unequal treatment between children, siblings with behaviour problems, etc. These contribute to the onset of criminal behaviour in a child or adolescent.

Family Support

The most effective way to prevent juvenile delinquency is to mitigate the risk factors in the family. Early intervention for vulnerable children and their families means identifying and providing early support to children and young people who are at risk of poor outcomes.

Benefits of Early Intervention for Families 

Families benefit from early intervention by being able to better meet their children’s needs and protect them from offending or coming in conflict with the law.

Family support makes use of trained personnel who will give appropriate support, advice to deal with challenges. Encourage supportive family relationship. If a child feels listened to and supported at home they are less likely to become delinquent.

They support parents and children affected by a range of events divorce, separation, domestic violence, child abuse and neglect, unemployment, etc. with child protective factors, education,  recreation, community involvement, parent child interaction, bullying prevention and after school enrichment activities to keep children from having problems.

The siblings of youth on parole are less likely to commit crimes because of the help their family has received.

Youth out of detention readjust to free life and do not go back because of the improved condition of their families thereby ending repeat offences.

 

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Conflict Resolution Education 

Conflict resolution is an important life skill. Teaching young people to develop right values and positive mindset. Teaching them healthy actions, social skills, coping skills and problem solving skills to deal with difficult situations and keep healthy relationships.

Delinquency and violence are symptoms of youth inability to solve problems and handle conflicts constructively. They imbibe preventive strategies, positive value reorientation and attitudes that can prevent juveniles from ever encountering the justice system.

They learn the skills to control emotions and behaviour under extreme stress. It inculcates active listening, effective communication to address underlying problems that can negatively impact youth behaviour and actions.

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It instills in them self awareness and conscious knowledge of their feelings, traits, character and behaviour to help them resolve disputes peacefully, reduce antisocial behaviour and violence.

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Youth are equipped with a skill set for problem solving and non violent communication reducing incidents of fighting, bullying, harassment and other forms of violence among young people. They manage competing needs and interests without resorting to violence and stay out of trouble.

 

Child Well-being: Good Co-parenting Relationship

 

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Divorce can be traumatic for children. It has a negative impact on children and can subject them to behavioural and mental vulnerabilities. It can increase destructive behaviour and anger, compromises children’s emotional and relational stability and adversely affect their academic performances.

Parents can protect their children

Parents can protect their children from the destructive effects of separation and divorce. They do this when both parents work together to raise their children even though they are divorced or separated putting the well-being of their children before everything. They can stop fighting and work out the issues between them in a healthy way. When they avoid hostility, acrimony and focus on the needs of their children.

Separation and divorce can be difficult for parents and impact children adversely. The factors that influence the well-being of children during these events are within the parents control. The quality of parenting provided over time and the quality of parent-child relationship can mitigate or reverse potential serious outcomes for the children.

Managing conflict and effective parenting foster strong parent-child relationship. Parents not compromising on effective discipline, enforcing the rules, monitoring children’s behaviour and genuine manifestation of love will help shield children from deviant peers and behaviour.

Effective co-parenting relationship

Parents can choose to Imbibe protective factors for the sake of their children such as being involved in the lives of their children. Cooperating to resolve disputes between themselves. Placing emphasis on supporting and caring for their children. Focusing on what is in the best interests of their children and doing what is the best for themselves.

Since children are involved and the parents will always be parents, you have to learn to communicate with the other parent. You can achieve this by maintaining a business like relationship and learning not to control your children’s allegiances or use them to manipulate your ex-spouse.

Recognize that your children need to have relationships with both parents and that your children’s affection for the other parent is no personal threat to you. It is in the best interest of the children for both parents to be involved in their lives.

This might mean agreeing on a custody arrangement with a focus on what is best for your child or children. Whether to adopt shared parenting or sole custody whereby your children live with one parent but see the other parent very often, deciding the amount and consistent payments of child support by the non custodial parent or non resident parent (usually fathers) for the care and support of the children. Putting the children first always.

A child should never feel he has been abandoned because when children feel they have been abandoned by the other parent (usually fathers), it can lead to increased risk for violent behaviour. Fathers will do well for themselves to be involved in the lives of their children and contribute to raising them.

 

Separated Parents: Child Maintenance Arrangements and Payments

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Parents are legally responsible for the financial needs and security of their children after separation and divorce even if you do not see them or if agreement about access to the children happened separately. Visitation and child maintenance are separate issues in the eyes of the court.

Child maintenance (child support) is for the welfare of the children. This is paid by the non custodial parent (usually the father) to the mother who has day to day care of the children. A child has a right to maintenance from their parents and action can be taken by the custodial parent to claim maintenance for the children.

You can make financial arrangements with your former spouse for the care of your children. This entails sending money for their upkeep to the parent who is the primary carer often monthly to enhance their well-being and safeguard their future. Do not allow your children suffer. You can create an agreement between yourselves or get help to make one. This way you ensure your children are safe and healthy even though you are not living in the same house.

 

Family – based Arrangements

Private agreement between you and the other parent on arrangements for your child. You work out your own financial arrangements for the child and reach an agreement. You can come to your own agreement about financial support for your children. You can agree between yourselves how much child maintenance should be paid, how and when it should be made.

If you are finding it difficult to come to an agreement or the private arrangement breaks down, you can go to mediation, you both have to be willing to go to mediation or go to court to enforce the right of the child for an order of maintenance.

 

Getting Help to Reach Agreements 

Mediation for separated parents to resolve disputes and agree on child arrangements without going to court. Parents sort out differences following separation with the help of a neutral third party mediator, come to their own agreement while focusing on the needs of their children.

Mediation is a confidential process, quicker and less stressful than going to court. The process promotes parental responsibility so that children receive maintenance from parents even if they live in separate households. The mediator. helps parents make decisions about financial support for the children.

The mediator facilitates discussions between both parents, helps them work out their parenting arrangements and reach an agreement. Free family mediation.

 

Getting Help to Enforce Payments 

Social welfare Payments. Child support enforcement services. Getting payments without sharing your location. Custodial parents and children obtain financial support from the non-residential parent to enhance the well-being of children. They get help to locate absent parents and enforce support obligations. Services are available to a parent with custody of a child who has a parent living outside of the home.

Survivors of family violence can access child support services safely. If you feel at risk talking to the other parent because a private agreement would involve being in contact or if you do not want to be in contact because you do not feel it is safe you need not talk to the other parent or tell the other parent your location.

You do not need to make contact with the other parent if you have experienced violence. You can seek help to collect payments through the social welfare office and can help in the calculation of the amount and enforcement. It will take action if a parent fails to make financial provision for their children.

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Marital Conflict Management Skills for Men and Women

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Marriage is sweet but has its ups and downs. This is inevitable. You can minimize the lows. You can make your marriage a happy one if you learn to effectively deal with your partner’s flaws, annoying habits, understand your partner’s emotions and resolve disagreements in a healthy way. The following tools will help you handle differences in a positive way, keep your marriage strong and healthy.

 

Effective communication – Be thoughtful of the language you use. Avoid negative words and keep the language you use positive. There is nothing that cannot be accomplished with effective communication.

Be mindful of your tone and your non verbal cues. It is not just what you say it is how you say it. Your tone of voice, gestures, eye contact and touch can communicate what you mean and want more powerfully than your words. Be careful never be sarcastic in any way. Be patient and kind.

Effective communication is the key in marriage. When both partners can openly express their thoughts, the other listens attentively and tries to understand what their partner says with empathy. Being open to honest communication. Taking a non judgmental view of your partner’s emotions and communicate. Avoiding assumptions. Using gentle tone of voice and body language.

Actively listening – being attentive. listening attentively to what the other person has to say. Giving full attention to the other person. Listening and responding in a way that improves mutual understanding. Shun negative non verbal cues or gestures. Calming yourselves.

 

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Patience – face challenges with patience and understanding.  Listen to understand the needs of your spouse in a supportive and empathetic way. Listen to identify emotions and place value on what they are saying. Understand their perspectives, feelings and needs maintaining eye contact.

Emotion regulation. Mutual respect is crucial. Exert control over your emotional state. Exercise greater self-control. Manage your emotions. Control your thoughts and actions. Express your feelings calmly. Say exactly how you feel. Identify your emotions, the trigger, and communicate these clearly and calmly to your wife.

Practice Empathy – be more empathetic. Step into your partner’s shoes. Share their feelings and emotions. Feel what they are going through without blaming, judgmental, critical or being harsh. Get to understand their needs from their perspective. Respect differences.

Positivity  – resolve issues in a kind, respectful and healthy way. Respect your partner’s needs. Understand their needs or ask to know their needs and search for a solution together. Agree to disagree. Disagree in a kind way. Provide love, reassurance, acceptance and encouragement. Touch each other. Compliment your spouse.

 

Conflict Management and Resolution Tips:

Respect and love your spouse. Stop what you are doing and look at them when they talk. Submit to your husband. Love your wife unconditionally.

Appreciate your spouse for the hard work they do. Does not matter if you are the at-home parent or the parent who leaves the house to work. Express your appreciation for everything including the little things they do. For being a wonderful father or mother. Appreciate their contributions to the family. Tell them thank you.

Don’t take your spouse for granted. Do a little nice thing for your spouse every single day. Say nice things to him or her when it comes to mind. Admire your spouse. Appreciate your spouse. Ask about their day. Make him happy.

Be a good listener. Listen lovingly. Ask the right questions, use loving gestures and body language. Put the phones down, hug, touch, hold hands.

Appreciate her. Deal with your wife with understanding. Compliment her looks. Use compliments to make her feel loved.

Love your mother in-law. Mom and dad.

Love your in-laws. If you are experiencing overbearing In-law behaviour, have a conversation with your husband. He will know how to handle it.

Share personal stress. When feeling unhappy, have unmet expectations or dissatisfied, have a discussion. Talk about your strengths and weaknesses. Ask how you can improve as a spouse. What you can do to improve your marriage.

Be each other’s best friend and a good team. Do things together because you are one. Cooperate with your spouse. Look out for each other’s well-being. Look out for their best interest. Help each other fulfil your dreams and purpose. Help your spouse be the best version of themselves.

Work on yourself. Work on self-improvement. Identify and overcome any weakness. Be a better person.

Understand your spouse. Ask to know your partner’s needs. Ask what they  need from you. Cooperate to find solutions to issues in your marriage. Work together to resolve it.

Communicate freely and openly with each other. You can have honest nonjudgmental conversation. You can discuss everything with your spouse without blaming, judgmental or critical. You will listen and help out. Love and encourage your spouse. Knowing your love, compassion, care, respect and support is their strength. True love is unconditional. True love is sacrifice.

Teach him how to love you showing character traits of a good woman. Improve yourself. Become a better person. Dress up especially for him. Appreciate him for what he does for you. Welcome him home after work in a way that makes him happy, wants to come home and helps him get over stress of the workplace and traffic congestion.

Learn to pray together as a couple. Keep it short. Take turns. Make a list of things you both agree to pray for each other and each of your children.

Stop fighting about household chores. Don’t go with the crowd or public opinion. Your family is different and unique. Have a discussion. Discuss the issues calmly and respectfully. You will arrive at what works for your own family and unique situation.

If this is becoming a problem and you both can’t handle issues on your own, seek help before it escalates and leads to a crisis. See a counsellor, mediator. Seek help.

Don’t bully your spouse. Don’t provoke your spouse. Avoid speaking in anger. Control your emotions. Watch your words. Domestic violence is a build up of bad behaviour and unresolved issues leading to resentment which eventually gets out of control. Work on your issues early.

Don’t overlook or continue to endure bad behaviour that portends potential danger or fatality such as if egocentric, narcissistic or abusive emotionally, psychologically, physical or verbally. Speak up. Cry out. Speak with a counsellor, mediator or psychologist.

Seek refuge to protect yourself and children. Don’t endure abuse. Leave. Keep yourself safe while intervention is ongoing. Seek help.

 

 

 

Teenagers, Let’s Talk About Things That Matter

Choose the right friends

Choose your friends wisely. It is said that you go as the friends you keep. Avoid those who give you bad advice make you do what you do not want to do or what is not right. This is peer pressure. Avoid negative influences. Learn to say ‘No’ and mean it.

Make friends with those who share your values. Associate with good and responsible people. Associate with those who make positive influence on you. A person who stops being your friend was never a friend.

Resist peer pressure

Some teenagers give in to peer pressure because they want to be liked, they don’t want to be made fun of or due to curiosity. Walk away from situations and people that will make you compromise your standards and convictions. Be a disciplined person. Shun negative impact.

Teenagers who know what they want and are not afraid to say ‘no’ to peer pressure attract the respect and admiration of others. Be the person who influences others in positive and healthy ways.

Develop personal integrity, honesty and prudence. Learn to manage money. Make the best financial decisions. Learn to budget your funds and keep track of your money and spending. Lead a life of discipline.

Surround yourself with good people. Don’t be afraid to be different. Avoid bad songs, songs with bad lyrics and inappropriate use of the social media. Make wise use of the internet avoid inappropriate content.

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Take charge of your health

Take charge of your health and well-being. Stay away from drugs, alcohol and cigarette. Avoid people who use them and pressure others to do the same. Protect your health and mind. Participate in those things that promote your health, safety and well-being. Stay positive and be happy.

Change the message you give to yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others. Remind yourself your body is unique and beautiful in its own way. Get regular exercise. Partake in physical activities that are good for you and help you feel better.

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Say ‘No’ to sex

Avoid premarital sex. Set appropriate boundaries. There are some things that should wait. Sex is one of them. Some teens have sex because their friends pressure them into it. A friend who coerces you to have sex is not a good friend. Do not allow anyone lure, blackmail or intimidate you into having sex or doing what you do not want to do. No sex before marriage is a wise decision.

Premarital Sex has negative effects such as sexually transmitted diseases (STD), unwanted pregnancy, teenage parenthood and dropping out of school. Abstinence is the right choice. It prevents getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant. This way you don’t miss out on your youthful years.

Don’t get involved in romantic relationship. Avoid kissing and do not allow wrong touching.  Develop good friendships based on respect and consideration for the other person. Be focused. Avoid study distractions. Set good and achievable goals for yourself.

Communicate clearly and honestly

Formulate your own opinion on things. Be yourself. Stand up for what you believe in. If it is wrong, if it doesn’t feel right because others are doing it does not make it right. Know who you are. Be a good example. Know what you want despite what others say or do. Take responsibility for your actions. Make responsibile choices.

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Learn to confide in your parents. When going through anxiety, worried, confused, afraid or struggling with anything, learn to speak early, clearly and honestly about the way you feel to the adult in charge, other trusted and responsible adult, your school counsellor or you may need to report someone to your teacher.

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Get to know God

Know God personally. Develop an intimate relationship with Him. Tell your hurts to God. Take everything to God in prayer.