Parent and Adult Child: Resolving Conflict, Restoring Harmony

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Conflict between a parent and their grown up child can cause tension in the family and affect everyone else adversely. Good parent child relationship is crucial for the emotional health of both parent and child.

It is agonizing for both parent and child in conflict when a parent is estranged from their child or when a child withdraws and stays away from their parent because of a misunderstanding. Conflict is inevitable but can be managed in a healthy way.

Talk about it 

Parents should learn to talk to their children. Listen to your child. Explain your side of the conflict calmly and clearly  compromising with your child. Show unconditional love and acceptance.

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Resolving conflict with your parent

Raise the issues with your parent using empathy and good communication. Show love, respect and compassion.

Make the move

Make the move. Reach out to your parent. Give him or her a call, send messages, send them gifts. If married, Do not bring in your spouse and children to avoid the conflict escalating. Deal with it positively.


Find it in your heart to forgive and reconcile with your dad or mom. Learn to walk in forgiveness and reject the shallow life. Forgive and let it go. Forgiveness brings peace, joy and happiness. Release everyone.

Be obedient 

We are admoinished by the word of God to honour our parents. This abounds in the Scripture. There is a caveat that it can be well with you. The word of God is settled and unchanging. It is wise to be obedient or suffer the repercussions. Ask for help in prayer. Pray for healing and obey.

Apply wisdom

Divine instructions to honour our mother and father are not qualified. Your parent may be difficult, impossible, mean, abusive or toxic. You suffered rejection, neglected, abused or abandoned, simply obey. We are called to obedience. You are enjoined to honour your parent regardless of what transpired so that you can enjoy God’s intervention and avoid His wrath.

Get close

Get close to your parent. Take care of them. You have everything to gain including God’s blessings when you do this.