Positive Parenting : Raising Happy Children


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Children learn more from what you are than what you teach. W.E.B. DuBois

A parent has the responsibility for good upbringing of their children. The parenting style to a large extent influences the future of a child, shapes his/her behavior and determines how well prepared the child is to realize his/her full potential and become the persons and adults they are meant to be.

Loving your child unconditionally

Understand and appreciate the child you have. Meet the specific needs of your child these include physical needs and emotional needs for love, warmth and care. When you fail to provide these basic needs you are neglecting your child.

Love your child unconditionally but you do not have to say ‘yes’ to everything he/she demands sometimes you cannot afford it and sometimes you should not. Explain to the child when you cannot.

Listen to and notice your child. Give each one of your children the right attention. Let your children know through your actions that everyone of them is important to you and you would need to check on each one of them. This will stem sibling rivalry. This will help them love themselves and know how lucky they are to have one another.

What is positive parenting and why does it matter?

Being a role model for your child

Be an example of the kind of person you want your child to be. Model good values to your child in your speech, behaviour and actions. Never fight before your child.

Do not argue or fight with your spouse in the presence of your child. If you do, settle it quickly and make up. Let your child learn that conflict is inevitable but how you manage it is crucial.

Model courtesy, good behaviour and forgiveness.This will help you raise a problem solver. Treat others well. Do what is right. Teach them kindness.

Maintaining structure

Establish routines and structure.  Teach your children to cook meals. Teach them to do household chores early and create fun doing this. Teach your children values. Create your own set of family values and paste it where everyone can see it.

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Teaching your child values

According to studies it is believed that a child’s personality is developed before age six. Teach values early. Set good examples for your child. Teach your child moral values that will help shape his/her life and future.

Values of honesty and integrity, respect, kindness, hardwork, accountability and determination. Teach your child sex education to help him/her imbibe the virtues of emotional responsibilities and chastity.

Bring up your child be the best of him or herself. Raise each child to be a well-rounded and good person. Implant in your child moral principles emphasizing action and consequences that will make sure they do the right thing.

Positive discipline

Teach your child to behave. Set limits. Have clear and consistent rules your child should follow. Discuss problems calmly and firmly. Let your child know what is expected of him or her. What will not be tolerated and what will be appreciated.

Set boundaries or limits with positive or negative consequences. Be consistent about this to get it established. Do not yell at your child. Do not rebuke your child sharply, criticize or put him/her down. Listen to his explanation before disciplining.

Learn to manage your emotions. Do not take your problems out on the child. Do not allow violent acts or hurtful words. Don’t beat your child in anger. Do not beat your child in public.

Do not exert power or control over your child. Never be overbearing but use your parental authority. Know when to give your child choices, how to support him or her in making decisions and behaving appropriately. Provide guidance but respect your child’s feelings and choices.

As you discipline and set boundaries affirm your child, appreciate his or her uniqueness and peculiarities and fulfil your responsibilities to your child.

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Connecting with each child

Spend quality time with your child. Connect with each child to correct and train the child. Let your child talk about how his day was and take time to listen. Acknowledge and appreciate each child’s uniqueness.

Encourage your child to talk to you about everything. Let him know he can talk to you about anything that you will listen attentively, calmly, counsel, rebuke with love and understanding, guide and direct.

Learn to effectively communicate with your child. Listen attentively to your child. Do not presume anything let him or her feel heard and understood by you. Make use of positive communication with your spouse and others this will help your child imbibe good social skills and relate well with you and others.

Being there for your child

Be there for your child. Show interest and participate in activities that are meaningful to him or her. Get to know your child’s friends. Honour school invitations, know the teachers. Be his her number one fan.

When a complaint is made concerning your child listen to his her side before responding. When your child makes a wrong choice disapprove of the misbehavior and help your child handle such situation differently in future.

Expressing love for your child

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Create ways to spend quality time with your child. Show your child you love them. Have dinner together. Use it to catch up on the day’s happenings. Make it positive and happy. Allow your child express himself herself, his her feelings and needs.

Children these days are facing tremendous challenges due to advancement in technology, social media and all, they are bombarded with all sorts of negative media. Guide your child, build his her self-esteem through communicating your love to him or her.

Play with your child. Show positive physical contact, touch, hug, express your affection for your child. Know where your child is and who he or she is with at all times.

Teaching your child to love God

Help your children know God. Raise them God’s way. Help them develop personal relationships with God. Teach them to pray. Be a praying parent. Pray for your children. Learn to take everything to God in prayer.