Divorce can be traumatic for children. It has a negative impact on children and can subject them to behavioural and mental vulnerabilities. It can increase destructive behaviour and anger, compromises children’s emotional and relational stability and adversely affect their academic performances.
Parents can protect their children
Parents can protect their children from the destructive effects of separation and divorce. They do this when both parents work together to raise their children even though they are divorced or separated putting the well-being of their children before everything. They can stop fighting and work out the issues between them in a healthy way. When they avoid hostility, acrimony and focus on the needs of their children.
Separation and divorce can be difficult for parents and impact children adversely. The factors that influence the well-being of children during these events are within the parents control. The quality of parenting provided over time and the quality of parent-child relationship can mitigate or reverse potential serious outcomes for the children.
Managing conflict and effective parenting foster strong parent-child relationship. Parents not compromising on effective discipline, enforcing the rules, monitoring children’s behaviour and genuine manifestation of love will help shield children from deviant peers and behaviour.
Effective co-parenting relationship
Parents can choose to Imbibe protective factors for the sake of their children such as being involved in the lives of their children. Cooperating to resolve disputes between themselves. Placing emphasis on supporting and caring for their children. Focusing on what is in the best interests of their children and doing what is the best for themselves.
Since children are involved and the parents will always be parents, you have to learn to communicate with the other parent. You can achieve this by maintaining a business like relationship and learning not to control your children’s allegiances or use them to manipulate your ex-spouse.
Recognize that your children need to have relationships with both parents and that your children’s affection for the other parent is no personal threat to you. It is in the best interest of the children for both parents to be involved in their lives.
This might mean agreeing on a custody arrangement with a focus on what is best for your child or children. Whether to adopt shared parenting or sole custody whereby your children live with one parent but see the other parent very often, deciding the amount and consistent payments of child support by the non custodial parent or non resident parent (usually fathers) for the care and support of the children. Putting the children first always.
A child should never feel he has been abandoned because when children feel they have been abandoned by the other parent (usually fathers), it can lead to increased risk for violent behaviour. Fathers will do well for themselves to be involved in the lives of their children and contribute to raising them.