Managing Behavioural Problems in Adolescents

 

Parent-Child Relationship Problems | LoveToKnow

A parent-child relationship is one that nurtures the physical, emotional and social development of the child. This unique bond helps the child exhibit a positive social behaviour. The healthy involvement of parents in the day-to-day life of their children helps ensure that their children perform better socially and academically.

The qualities of a good parent include constantly expresses love and affection for their children, provides support, sets limits, being a good role model, teaches responsibility, communicates effectively, maintains a good relationship with the other parent.

Conflict strategies parents can use

When your child exhibits challenging behaviour or when he/she has made wrong choices, communicate with him/her clearly and calmly. Focus on the problem, talk to your child using effective and assertive communication.

Listen to your child: Put your phone down and make eye contact. Listening to your child is important and try not to downplay your child’s concerns. Keep to boundaries. Do not give in to bad behaviour. Make your child know your concern is for his/her safety and well-being now and in the future.

Determine underlying causes: Listen attentively to determine and address underlying causes. Look beyond the rebellious behaviour to the causes behind it. Ask questions to make him or her express his feelings, needs, concerns to get to the root of the problem. If appropriate give the child a chance to help solve the problem.

Assess your parenting style: Evaluate the impact of your lifestyle and parenting style in the life of your child. Pay attention to your own habits and approach to parenting in terms of discipline, guidance and meeting the unique needs of the child.

Model healthy conflict resolution: Offer sincere apology and seek forgiveness for genuine shortcomings. Do not apportion blame but decide on what should be done from now on in your relationship with your child. Do not try to make up for past mistakes by becoming overly permissive but set out in a new direction with your child.

Seek professional help: Get professional help if you need it.  When faced with a difficult or stressful relationship or behaviour you cannot handle on your own seek independent help. Seek the help of a mediator, counsellor or child psychologist.

Deliberate Parenting