Protecting Children In Divorce
Divorce can be traumatic. It brings several types of emotions to a family and the children such as feelings of loss, anger and anxiety. Research has shown that children struggle the most after divorce.
Divorce can be difficult for parents and impact children adversely but factors that influence the well-being of children after separation are within the parents’ control.
Consequences of Divorce for Children
Divorce has a negative impact on children’s behaviour, education and mental health. Children and adolescents from divorced or separated families may experience problems such as conduct disorders, delinquency, impulsive behaviour and more conflicts with peers. It compromises their emotional and relational stability and adversely affects their academic performance.
A child is at greater risk of increased behaviour problems, developing violent and antisocial behaviour. Studies show that children experience high levels of anxiety, depression and antisocial behaviour even before the marital breakups of parents. For this reason, parents experiencing problems in their marriage should protect their children’s health and avoid fighting in front of them.
What Divorcing Parents Need To Do
Parents who have decided to divorce can sort out their parenting issues before they commence divorce proceedings. You can put emotions aside and work together to settle disagreements regarding your children and make parenting arrangements appropriate to the needs of your children. This will enable both parents be involved in the lives of their children and ensure their well-being after they divorce.
If emotions are too intense and you find it difficult reaching agreement on your own, you can make use of mediation assisted by a neutral third party.
Mediation services for separating couples and parents negotiate their own terms of settlement. They are assisted by a neutral third party negotiate about future arrangements for their children without going to court, reach agreement and prepare a parenting plan to present in court. The mediator helps them create their own agreement tailored to the needs of their family.
The Benefits of Mediation
Mediation helps parents manage emotions and put the needs and well-being of their children before anything, anger, resentment or hurt.
They learn to stop fighting, manage conflict and focus on the best interest of their children.
They develop good co-parenting relationship knowing that quality parenting provided over time and the quality of parent-child relationship mitigate potential serious outcomes for the children.