Divorce can be traumatic. It can be emotionally and psychologically traumatic and draining leaving pain, confusion and emotional scarring. It brings several types of emotions to a family and the children such as feelings of loss, anger and anxiety.
After divorce, couples experience effects including decreased levels of happiness, change in economic status and emotional problems. Research has shown that children struggle the most after divorce.
Consequences of Divorce for Children
Divorce has a negative impact on children’s behaviour, education and mental health. It may increase destructive behaviour and anger in children, compromises their emotional and relational stability and adversely affects their academic performance.
Children and adolescents from divorced or separated families may experience problems such as conduct disorders, delinquency, impulsive behaviour and more conflicts with peers.
A child is at greater risk of increased behaviour problems, developing violent and antisocial behaviour. Studies show that children experience high levels of anxiety, depression and antisocial behaviour even before the marital breakups of parents. For this reason, parents experiencing problems in their marriage should protect their children’s health and avoid fighting in front of them.
What Separating Parents Need To Do
Divorce can be difficult for parents and impact children adversely but factors that influence the well-being of children during this event are within the parents’ control.
Parents who have decided to separate can sort out future arrangements for their children before commencing legal proceedings. You can settle issues regarding your children together without going to court and focus on their best interest. You can put your emotions aside and work together to make your own parenting arrangements appropriate to the needs of your children.
This will enable both parents be involved in the lives of their children after separation and ensure their well-being. If emotions are too intense and you find it difficult reaching agreement, you can make use of mediation assisted by a neutral third party to reach agreement without going to court.
Mediation is a process where separating or divorcing parents are assisted by a neutral third party to resolve issues that affect their children and come to a mutual agreement. Parents negotiate about future arrangements for their children and reach agreement without going to court.
They create their own parenting plan which is custom made for their family situation without litigation a long, expensive and stressful process focusing on the best interest of their children.
The Benefits of Mediation
Mediation helps parents work together to raise their children even though they are separated and not living together.
They learn to manage emotions and put the needs and well-being of their children before anything, anger, resentment or hurt.
They learn to stop fighting, manage conflict and focus on the best interest of their children.
They imbibe good co-parenting relationship with the knowledge of quality parenting provided over time and the quality of parent-child relationship mitigate potential serious outcomes for the children.